Grey Divorce is the term referring to the rising rate in older adults, typically from long-lasting marriages, getting divorced. The term was coined as research showed the phenomenon of the overall divorce rate going down while the “grey-haired” demographic's rate of late-in-life divorce was on the rise.
Some estimates show that as many as two-thirds of all gray divorces are initiated by women.
An April 2021 report released by the U.S. Census Department found that 34.9 percent of all Americans who got divorced in the previous calendar year were aged 55 or older — aka, baby boomers, or people who might have gray hair (hence the nicknames).
So, how can we prevent gray divorce from happening? The simple answer is communicating before, during, and after the transition. It is really important to talk openly with your partner about how you are feeling. Communication isn't something that only needs to happen once to “work”, it needs to happen often.
At a time when divorce is becoming less common for Millennials, so-called “gray divorce” is on the rise for Baby Boomers. According to the Pew Research Center, the divorce rate has roughly doubled since the 1990s for American adults ages 50 and older.
"If you're no longer spending any time together, if one or both partners is spending all their time at work, with friends, online — and if feels like a relief not to be with each other — it's a sign that you've already disengaged from the marriage." You don't support or listen to each other.
Studies suggest that 20 percent of marriages end within the first five years and that this number increased by 12 percent within 10 years. But between 10 years and 15 years, the rate only increases about 8 percent, implying that one of the safest stages of your marriage is between years 10 and 15.
According to friends of the couple, the Gores cited "growing apart" as the reason for their split. That's a common reason for midlife divorces, Orbuch said. Relationship ruts and boredom are common. Spouses forget to show appreciation for each other, leading to frustration and loneliness.
A marriage breakdown after 30 years may be due to the empty nest syndrome, infidelity, different interests, retirement, or other reasons. Some spouses just want their independence. Many older spouses experience a midlife crisis that causes them to leave a marriage after 30 years or more.
23. The average age for couples going through their first divorce is 30 years old. 24. 60 percent of all divorces involve individuals aged 25 to 39.
Older couples face unique aging-related issues that can factor into the decision to divorce -- including health concerns, tensions brought on by living in closer proximity in retirement, losing parents and friends, and even the unsettling loss of youth.
The divorce rate among middle-aged couples 50 years and older is double that of couples in their 20s, 30 and 40s. The study found that verbal, physical, or emotional abuse were major reasons for divorce in middle-and later-age couples.
Finally, older divorce may be more common than any other time in history for a simple reason: People are living longer, says Brown. If you survive to age 65, you may live another 20 years, which is a long time to spend with someone you're no longer happy with, she says. “You might want to call it quits.”
Furthering the research into the gray divorce rate, according to an April 2021 report released by the U.S. Census Department, 34.9% of all Americans who got divorced in the previous calendar year, were aged 55 or older. That's more than twice the rate of any other age group surveyed.
Under the law in most states, retirement plan assets earned during a marriage are considered to be marital property that can and should be divided. It's therefore advisable for couples to make these assets part of their property settlement agreement negotiations and their divorce decree.
Marriages become sexless for a variety of reasons. Common reasons are a lack of desire, postpartum depression, frequent marital conflict, or a recent marital crisis or personal crisis that has impacted the client.
So all the reasons are there. People who fall into the next age bracket of 30 to 39 should apparently be having sex roughly 86 times a year, which results in 1.6 times a week (we'll let you work out how to make that work). Whereas 40 to 49 year olds have sex an average 69 times per year.
Nicknamed the “20-year itch,” divorces that happen at the two-decade mark are more common than you may think. Why does divorce tend to happen at this time? Kids move out of the home, and you're left to decide what you want to do with all of this new free time.
Abuse. The most serious reason to consider divorce is any persistent pattern of spousal abuse. This certainly encompasses physical abuse, which can place one spouse's life in immediate danger. However, patterns of verbal or financial abuse can also be corrosive and are very valid grounds to leave the marriage.
For some, sexless unions can last a lifetime, but for others be intolerable after two weeks. Couples don't like to discuss this openly because they're under the impression other couples are having sex all the time.
31 percent of couples have sex several times a week; 28 percent of couples have sex a couple of times a month; and 8 percent of couples have sex once a month. Sadly — or so we thought — 33 percent of respondents said they rarely or never have sex.
The Seventh Year. If you ask couples what the hardest years of marriage are, most will talk about the seven-year itch. A study suggests that most marriages end in divorce after seven years.
A 2002 study found that two-thirds of unhappy adults who stayed together were happy five years later. They also found that those who divorced were no happier, on average, than those who stayed together. In other words, most people who are unhappily married—or cohabiting—end up happy if they stick at it.